Dear new bride,
Don’t listen when he tells you he doesn’t like whole wheat pasta. He really does like it he just doesn’t know it yet. And he’ll thank you when he lives forever because of all that fiber.
Do make it a priority to read the Bible together and pray in bed at night. You’ll be amazed at how much God teaches you during these sleepy conversations about life.
Do pretend you understand what parenting is like because you rescue a puppy that cries at 3 a.m. and throws up on the carpet and chews your shoes and is still adorable.
Don’t raise your voice during arguments. By listening you’ll figure out the best way to make yourself heard.
Do hold hands in the car. And everywhere else for that matter.
Do book a trip to another country and then take it upon yourself to email him daily itinerary updates since you know he hates to plan.
Don’t get irritated if he responds to your detailed messages with “cool” or “k.”
Do be honest about money and set a limit you won’t go over without consulting each other.
Do get used to having the fan on at night because he produces twice as much body heat as you do. Also get used to walking around the house wrapped in blankets when he sets the air conditioning at 68 degrees.
Don’t think your house has to be perfect before you can practice hospitality. It’s all just a work in progress and that’s what makes homeownership so fun.
Do make an effort to show both of your families how much you enjoy spending time with them. Holidays will become a whirlwind but if someone has to eat two Thanksgiving dinners in one day it might as well be you.
Do be supportive of boys night out and girls night out.
Don’t make him throw away old t-shirts from high school and college that somehow still hold great sentimentality.
Do serve your local church and community together and invest in new friendships.
Do always put chocolate chips in his pancakes.
Don’t watch over his shoulder or critique when he helps with cleaning house or washing dishes or doing laundry. Trust me, he knows the difference between whites and colors.
Do be thankful when he rides his bike next to you in the rain so you have company on long training runs.
New bride, your marriage will be the most challenging and rewarding relationship of your life. The next two years of you and him being one will be full of growth and adventure because of Jesus. Remember, love is patient and love is kind.
Here’s to year three!